Our Love Starts Here
For the second year in a row Father’s Day had come and gone, without a sound I sit and wondering why?
This year was the hardest for me, the first Father’s Day after losing my Dad in February 2017. This is now the second consecutive year that Father’s Day fell on the other parent’s week of parenting time. For the second year a Father sits alone waiting for that little voice, the whisper in the ear she loves to do. Either she will sneak up from behind or well she is embraced in my arms, her chin starts to rest on my shoulder she always whispers in a gentle little voice right in my ear, I LOVE YOU DADDY. To hear that from her on Father’s Day would fill me with joy. Hoping for just a phone call from my child, the ex knowing that this year was going to be hard after the lose of little one’s Grandpa, My Dad. My daughter knowing she would be at her mom's for Father's Day asked Grandma if the two of them could going shopping for an early gift for dad. Of course you and I can go shopping for your father. That Saturday I drove them to Wal-Mart and dropped them off because I was told by little one that it was a grandma and her girls shopping day no daddies allowed. Sunday, my daughter came up to me and very nicely asked if I could come and sit down in the living room she had a surprise for her daddy. I did not know what to think, all I knew was that the two of them were out shopping for over two hours the day before. My daughter wanted to make sure that I got a Father's Day gift before she went to mommies house. My daughter pick out a new wallet to replace the one that had been stolen late March, she also had grandma read her cards for over an hour when they went shopping and she picked this card out for me
The Best Father's Day Card Ever
This year would have been the year for the ex to do the right thing as a co-parent and show our child support and show that her mom is willing to move on and allow our child to call her father. Instead I sat thinking how much this was my fault that there was no communication. On Mother’s Day, there was no call placed to her mother nor did our child show any interest in talking to her mother on that day. With the Wednesday after Mother’s Day being the switch day for our child, she was dropped to her mother with a gift and assorted stuff for Mother’s Day as the ex did not get a call. However at that time I was acting solely based that there was to be no verbal contact between the ex and I, as we had a very toxic relationship due to our marriage and the way it ended. No matter what I did, say, or act, if I looked at anything the wrong way I was attacked by workers, lawyers, even dragged into court for no real reason. Shortly after my ex and I started couples counseling and in our first session, it was thrown in my face that the ex did not get a call on that day but nothing about the Wednesday after Mother's Day. Shortly after my ex and I started couples counseling and in our first session, it was thrown in my face that the ex did not get a call on that day but nothing about the Wednesday after Mother's Day.
We learn from the past and if you don’t, I bet life must be great for you.
Father’s Day this year again I received a text message from my daughter’s oldest sister with Father’s Day wishes, she also mentions in her text what a great dad I am to both her and her little sister. Here is a child only by marriage, that has no obligation to even contact me or to have anything to do with me. sending wishes every year no matter because I am the only one that she will call dad and still nothing from my own blood child, why?
Is it that this person has so much animosity towards me as the father of her child, the one Man that has fought for his child for over 7 years. The only Man to ever stand against her and the Ministry to be a Father to 1 out of 9 children she gave birth to. I believe it is jealousy that the love that is share between our child and me is unconditional and is not force or had to be bought. No matter how hard I get pushed I am a Father and as so I will never judge my child for mistakes made because of others or by herself, I will be the first to show change so that our child’s life will go on with no more games.
Last Saturday, I the real father put forth my hand to the other dad to say no more. I offered my handshake to honor a trust that the playing field is level, but I am her Father and you can be called a dad for what that is worth to you because it doesn't matter.
